If you’re read this blog over the past year you know we made the big move further into the suburbs. And that this was never the grand plan, especially since we moved into the neighborhood I grew up in. But thinking about how we plan & prep for our future made me realize that this move was really all about the future of our family. We opted for the better family home, what would provide our kids with better space, a better yard & equally good schools while also giving us more flexibility in future expenses like date nights or vacations. We opted for a better way of life versus our “dream” neighborhood. And honestly? We made the best decision.
It was easy to imagine fitting into a small home with our one year old but when you thought about adding in a second kid & their lives when they got older it became much clearer that we wanted to provide a little more space for them. We loved the older homes in Arlington. We did not love the split-levels in the suburbs. We however loved the space those split-levels provided, how we could host bbq’s in the backyard & let the kids have their own playroom while we made dinner in a kitchen where we could both fit at the same time. Thinking about what we wanted for our family & how we needed to grow into the house became bigger then where we wanted to live.
The other issue was of course price- the closer you’re to D.C., the more expensive the homes. Buying a home in Arlington would have meant limiting our expenses elsewhere. Our way of life became more important. Being able to go on family vacations or even weekends away was important to us. A nice little vintage home might have seemed great walking through it, but 5 years down the line I was going to get annoyed that we could never leave it!
I have to laugh at people in their 20’s who claim they will never live in the suburbs. I was one of you my friends! And while some of you can truly make it work in the city, others of us realize that the price & space just can’t work. Becoming a parent means you put someone else’s needs ahead of yours. For us that really came through in abandoning what we personally had wanted in a home to what was best for our family & our future.
This post is part of the monthly BBar link-up so make sure to check out how the other participating bloggers’ have started to prepare for their future: